How to Pick a Gay Wedding Date

Choosing a date for your gay wedding is much more complicated than you might imagine because you want to pick a date when your chosen venue is available and when your most beloved guests are available. Take your time and be sure the date you choose is the one you want because once you’ve published it, it’s very difficult to change.

Engagement = Wedding Planning Time

Particularly if you’re a couple who has been in a committed relationship for some time already, you might not feel the need for a long engagement period. However, remember that the amount time you’re engaged is the same amount of time you have to plan for your wedding. While there’s not much information available yet about how long gay and lesbian couples are engaged before getting married, straight couples average around 14 months. Getting engaged and then married about a year later should give you enough time to plan for a large wedding. You’ll need less time for a smaller or more casual wedding.

Identify Special Dates

If there are any special dates you want to consider, identify those first. Perhaps you want to choose the same day you met or the same day your parents were married or even a date that your astrological calendar recommends.

Using Numerology to Choose a Date

It’s easy to calculate the dates that numerology would indicate are best for you to get married. First, calculate your Life Path Number by grouping and then adding the digits in your birthday. For example, if your birthday is June 15, 1990, that’s 6/15/1990. First, reduce each group to a single digit, add the digits and reduce that to a single digit unless it’s 11 or 22 (don’t reduce 11 or 22 until the final step). The month is 6, the day is 1 + 5 = 6, and the year is 1 + 9 + 9 + 0 = 19, and 1 + 9 = 10 and 1 + 0 = 1. so you add 6 + 6+ 1 to get 13, and then you add 1 + 3 to get your Life Path Number of 4. If your fiance’s birthday is September 27, 1988, do the same calculation. The day is 2 + 7 = 9, and the year is 1 + 9 + 8 + 8 = 26, and 2 + 6 = 8. Add 9 + 9 + 8 to get 26, and then add 2 + 6 to get your finace’s Life Path Number of 8. Combine the two, for example, 4 + 8 = 12 and then add 1 + 2 to get your combined Life Path Number of 3. Now, choose any day in March, the third day of any month or March 3 to maximize your luck!

Pick a Season

Next, choose a season that fits the theme and style of your wedding. A winter wedding might have snow and a magical holiday theme. If you’re thinking about rich colors of changing leaves, apple cider and football, perhaps a fall wedding might be ideal. If you envision pastel colors and daffodils, it sounds like a spring wedding might be your thing. And if you dream of sunsets and tropical cocktails, a summer wedding might be your choice.

Ask Your Most Important Guests

If you don’t want to get married without a few specific people in attendance, ask them if they have already committed themselves to other events such as high school or college graduations or even other weddings and cross those dates off your list.

Consider Your Budget

Since you’ve already created your budget, consider how the potential dates on your list will impact it. Expect to pay more in June and September and October, and to pay less is November, January and March. Also, weekends will usually be more expensive than a wedding on a weekday.


Depending on how you and your guests celebrate holidays, they might be great dates to target or specific dates to avoid. Valentine’s Day is a popular (and therefore expensive) day to get married. Holidays often come with their own themes, such as Fourth of July barbecues and fireworks. Many holidays fall on long weekends, which might make it easier for out-of-town guests to attend. However, some might not want to sacrifice their holiday weekend to attend your wedding. Pay special attention to religious holidays if they might limit what your guests can do or eat.

Other Considerations

Work Schedule

If you work in a cyclical industry or profession with a busy season, you might want to choose a date that won’t have you stressed at work when you’re about to get married.


If you plan to go on a honeymoon right after you get married, you might want to either adjust your date around your honeymoon location, or adjust your honeymoon location around your chosen date.

Book Your Venue

Before you send out any invitations or “save-the-date” announcements, it’s best to reserve your venue and put down a deposit to guarantee it.

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